The idea of naturality when dealing with homosexuality can be a touchy issue. People who do not support homosexuality argue that being in a same-sex relationship is just not natural. Since you cannot reproduce and have a child in a homosexual relationship, this means that you should not be in this kind of relationship at all. Also, people believe that a child should not be raised by two people of the same sex. They claim that a child needs to be raised by a parent of both sexes to learn both the maternal and paternal insticts and ways of life. It can also be argued that since animals who do not have human will are in heterosexual relations, and this is natural, unlike homosexual relationships.
Although the topic of homosexuality can bring up a variety of issues, there are also some other topics in human behavior that can be debated as not being natural. Prostitution is an issue that people argue as not being morally right because people believe that selling your body to earn money is not a way to live. They say that your body is a temple, and selling your body for someone else's pleasure is not what our society accepts as natural or right today. Another unnatural issue that is present in today's society is the plastic surgery movement. It can be argued that modifying your body image becasue you are not happy with the way you look is not natural and is therefore unaccepted. This is an ongoing issue that has valid points coming from both parties, but will always be argued an unnatural.
We are raised in this country learning from a young age what is natural and what is not according to our culture. Because of this, nature can be used as an argument to justify certain situations, but can also be used to condemn people's actions. It is the culture that we are raised in that teaches us our morals and values, and these values vary from culture to culture. Someone who is raised in a town where plastic surgery is common and accepted will think that naturality is different than someone who was raised in a more conservative environment who thinks that your body is natural and should not be altered. Our culture teaches every person what is natural, and since there are differences in cultures, there will be differences on naturality.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
The Real Foundation of Love
It can be difficult to distinguish what aspect of a relationship is the most important. This could include biology, chemistry, love, and a variety of other aspects. It seems that all of these are incredibly important, and Helen Fisher describes this as a "love map" (Fisher 304). She says that it is predetermined in the brain what kinds of people we will be attracted to, and we follow this unconsciously throughout our lives. Fisher also explained how she believes that "love at first sight" comes from nature. It is instinct for animals to grab their mates so no one else can have them, and this is similar to human's views of love at first sight (Fisher 305). Since the love map and love at first sight seem to be natural instincts, all of the "mystical" things that come along with love are actually all predetermined.
After realizing that most love engagements are unconscious and predetermined, cultural beliefs and behaviors could be drastically changed. Some cultures have arranged marriages, and they could change these ways because love has a biological component that proves that two people are meant to be together, and they cannot know if their arranged partner is actually the love of their life. The "wooing messages, dinner dates, and odor lures" cannot happen with arranged marriages, and this does not allow the partners to know if they are right for each other (Fisher 303). People who do not have arranged marriages would also date less because they would know if they had the chemistry and biological connection sooner. Based on "love at first sight," after a few dates, a couple would know if they were meant to be together, and if they were not, they would end it sooner (Fisher 305). Proving that relationships have a biological foundation could greatly change the way that we look at them in general.
I believe that there is definitely a chemistry between two people, and that biology is a firm basis for this. However, I think that it may be a little bold to claim that it is solely biology and chemistry that make up relationships, and that a love map is predetermined. Unless we get a chance to experience the world and what people have to offer, we cannot fully know what kind of partner we want for the rest of our lives. Biology has more of an impact on relationships than we give it credit for because it cannot be solely based on human opinion, but I do think that there is some wiggle room for people to discover who they are and what their identity is before choosing a partner, and this can be accomplished through dating and meeting others.
After realizing that most love engagements are unconscious and predetermined, cultural beliefs and behaviors could be drastically changed. Some cultures have arranged marriages, and they could change these ways because love has a biological component that proves that two people are meant to be together, and they cannot know if their arranged partner is actually the love of their life. The "wooing messages, dinner dates, and odor lures" cannot happen with arranged marriages, and this does not allow the partners to know if they are right for each other (Fisher 303). People who do not have arranged marriages would also date less because they would know if they had the chemistry and biological connection sooner. Based on "love at first sight," after a few dates, a couple would know if they were meant to be together, and if they were not, they would end it sooner (Fisher 305). Proving that relationships have a biological foundation could greatly change the way that we look at them in general.
I believe that there is definitely a chemistry between two people, and that biology is a firm basis for this. However, I think that it may be a little bold to claim that it is solely biology and chemistry that make up relationships, and that a love map is predetermined. Unless we get a chance to experience the world and what people have to offer, we cannot fully know what kind of partner we want for the rest of our lives. Biology has more of an impact on relationships than we give it credit for because it cannot be solely based on human opinion, but I do think that there is some wiggle room for people to discover who they are and what their identity is before choosing a partner, and this can be accomplished through dating and meeting others.
Week 7 Blog Reviews
Brittany:
I really enjoyed reading your blog about how women can drive too. I have experienced this too, and it can be very frustrating to hear no other excuse than "well, you just can't." This was a great point to bring up about gender differences because although men and women can be similar drivers, men do not want to hear it, and would rather be superior and dominant over women. You tied in Tannen's point very effectively by saying that men and women communicate differently because this directly ties in to the male dominance issue. Good job!
Your blog on relationships was interesting to read. You brought up great points about how women want their "perfect man" and will continue to look for this for a long period of time. Wright mentioned that people are not meant to stay together, and you explained his reasoning in a very effective way. I liked that you did not put your opinion in until the end, because it can be difficult to play devil's advocate, but I think you did a great job at it. The questions you asked at the beginning of the post really got me thinking about what the rest of the post was going to be about. Great job!
Victoria:
I really enjoyed your post about men! It was so funny to read, and I completely agree with you that men can quite often give the cold shoulder and it is so very frustrating. I have gone through the same thing with my dad and boyfriends, and I would never understand why it was so necessary to ignore me until this reading either. Men are so different than women, and you proved by all the stories that you have about your dad and ex boyfriend. This was a great blog to read and you did a great job!
Your blog about marriage and how it needs to stay sacred brought up great points. You talked about Wright's view on marriage and why people should be able to move from one partner to the next, then stated your own opinion which showed a lot of thought about the topic. When you described all the things that people should stay together through, like cancer, morning sickness, and the flu, it really showed how important marriage is and why we need to be there for only one person for better or for worse. You did a very good job on this post!
Megan:
I can tell you put a lot of thought into your post about men and their different communication styles. I feel the same way about my brother: him not talking very much while I talk about most of my feelings, and this proves how different men and women are in their communication styles. Mentioning your cell phone and how it can be difficult to communicate was a great topic to bring up. It can be hard in general to communicate over texting because you can never tell emotion, and trying to text a male can be even harder because it can be very difficult to figure out what they are saying. This was a very thoughtful post and I enjoyed reading it.
Your blog about marriage was interesting to read. You referenced the text quite often, and had a very good argument about being sure about the life-long decision many people make a year. No marriage is easy, but this does not mean that a marriage needs to end just because it is difficult. I think that this is important to remember, even though Wright may not believe this. Your post was very informational, and stating your opinion on the topic will enforce your argument and show how you feel about it. Good job!
I really enjoyed reading your blog about how women can drive too. I have experienced this too, and it can be very frustrating to hear no other excuse than "well, you just can't." This was a great point to bring up about gender differences because although men and women can be similar drivers, men do not want to hear it, and would rather be superior and dominant over women. You tied in Tannen's point very effectively by saying that men and women communicate differently because this directly ties in to the male dominance issue. Good job!
Your blog on relationships was interesting to read. You brought up great points about how women want their "perfect man" and will continue to look for this for a long period of time. Wright mentioned that people are not meant to stay together, and you explained his reasoning in a very effective way. I liked that you did not put your opinion in until the end, because it can be difficult to play devil's advocate, but I think you did a great job at it. The questions you asked at the beginning of the post really got me thinking about what the rest of the post was going to be about. Great job!
Victoria:
I really enjoyed your post about men! It was so funny to read, and I completely agree with you that men can quite often give the cold shoulder and it is so very frustrating. I have gone through the same thing with my dad and boyfriends, and I would never understand why it was so necessary to ignore me until this reading either. Men are so different than women, and you proved by all the stories that you have about your dad and ex boyfriend. This was a great blog to read and you did a great job!
Your blog about marriage and how it needs to stay sacred brought up great points. You talked about Wright's view on marriage and why people should be able to move from one partner to the next, then stated your own opinion which showed a lot of thought about the topic. When you described all the things that people should stay together through, like cancer, morning sickness, and the flu, it really showed how important marriage is and why we need to be there for only one person for better or for worse. You did a very good job on this post!
Megan:
I can tell you put a lot of thought into your post about men and their different communication styles. I feel the same way about my brother: him not talking very much while I talk about most of my feelings, and this proves how different men and women are in their communication styles. Mentioning your cell phone and how it can be difficult to communicate was a great topic to bring up. It can be hard in general to communicate over texting because you can never tell emotion, and trying to text a male can be even harder because it can be very difficult to figure out what they are saying. This was a very thoughtful post and I enjoyed reading it.
Your blog about marriage was interesting to read. You referenced the text quite often, and had a very good argument about being sure about the life-long decision many people make a year. No marriage is easy, but this does not mean that a marriage needs to end just because it is difficult. I think that this is important to remember, even though Wright may not believe this. Your post was very informational, and stating your opinion on the topic will enforce your argument and show how you feel about it. Good job!
Thursday, October 8, 2009
Till Death Do Us Part
Although marriage can be one of the hardest things that a man and woman go through together, it is something that must be preserved and stay sacred. Although monogamous marriage has "aquired some blemishes," we still should work to keep marriage between a single man and woman (Wright 280). When two people take vows on their wedding day, they make lifelong promises to each other, closing it up with "death do us part." With divorce rates at an all-time high in today's society, these vows seem to no longer be promises, but just phrases that two people say to each other when they are embarking on a new journey together. Wright says that "human beings are designed to fall in love," and this should only be to one person whom someone can share their deepest and darkest secrets with (Wright 280).
"The human mind, like any other organ, was designed for the purpose of transmitting genes to the next generation" (Wright 280). Since the body was designed to reproduce and carry on human kind, it is not necessary to break the bonds of marriage to do so. Once someone has picked their life partner, they must realize that offspring are usually a part of marriage, so they need to marry knowing that children could very well be in the future. Monogamous marriage has been around for thousands of years, and just because our society has changed today does not mean that marriage should.
With affairs and divorce comes jealousy and despise. If someone finds out their partner has cheated on them, they become jealous of the other person, and the relationship can quickly fall apart. Wright states that "the modern environment has carried them [jealousies] to new heights, making marriage dicer than ever" (Wright 285). If monogamous marriage has worked for so many years, why are affairs that cause jealousy needed? They just aren't. Our society has turned marriage into a different bond than it used to be, full of affairs and divorce, which only causes heartache. Looking back on the thousands of years of monogamous marriage and the better relationships and lives people lead, it is apparent that monogamous marriage needs to stay an integral part of today's society, no matter what the media says.
"The human mind, like any other organ, was designed for the purpose of transmitting genes to the next generation" (Wright 280). Since the body was designed to reproduce and carry on human kind, it is not necessary to break the bonds of marriage to do so. Once someone has picked their life partner, they must realize that offspring are usually a part of marriage, so they need to marry knowing that children could very well be in the future. Monogamous marriage has been around for thousands of years, and just because our society has changed today does not mean that marriage should.
With affairs and divorce comes jealousy and despise. If someone finds out their partner has cheated on them, they become jealous of the other person, and the relationship can quickly fall apart. Wright states that "the modern environment has carried them [jealousies] to new heights, making marriage dicer than ever" (Wright 285). If monogamous marriage has worked for so many years, why are affairs that cause jealousy needed? They just aren't. Our society has turned marriage into a different bond than it used to be, full of affairs and divorce, which only causes heartache. Looking back on the thousands of years of monogamous marriage and the better relationships and lives people lead, it is apparent that monogamous marriage needs to stay an integral part of today's society, no matter what the media says.
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
Emotional Women and Not-So-Emotional Men
It can be quite difficult to talk to men about emotions. Having a boyfriend, a brother, and a father around me often, I have learned that avoiding an emotional topic is usually best. Most men that I have met are very literal, and only think, don't feel. This can cause conflict because women are generally emotional like to talk about their feelings, so it can be difficult to relate to men sometimes. If I have a conversationwith a guy, I make sure to make it as unemotional as possible. This avoids any awkward silences or looks, and helps the conversation go as smooth as possible.
Deborah Tannen showed a perfect example of an unemotional guy and a more emotional girl. A guy might say, "You shouldn't feel bad because your problems aren't so bad," while a girl would say "You shouldn't feel bad because I've had similar experiences" (Tannen 243). This shows how a man is less emotionally attached while a woman tries to feel for the other woman and share the problem with her. Talking is also a sign of closeness for women, or intimacy (Tannen 244). Since men are so unemotional with their converstaions, it can be difficult to relate with them because women are more emotional in general, and they can feel like they are lacking intimacy when lacking genuine conversation.
Deborah Tannen showed a perfect example of an unemotional guy and a more emotional girl. A guy might say, "You shouldn't feel bad because your problems aren't so bad," while a girl would say "You shouldn't feel bad because I've had similar experiences" (Tannen 243). This shows how a man is less emotionally attached while a woman tries to feel for the other woman and share the problem with her. Talking is also a sign of closeness for women, or intimacy (Tannen 244). Since men are so unemotional with their converstaions, it can be difficult to relate with them because women are more emotional in general, and they can feel like they are lacking intimacy when lacking genuine conversation.
Week 6 Blog Reviews
Brittany:
I think you picked a great movie to describe a "wild woman." Helen had her own life which she loved and it quickly turned around and she had to care for others more than herself. You did a great job of describing Helen and a background of her life before explaining what happened to her and how she had to immediately become a responsible adult. I found it difficult to find a movie to describe, and I think you found a great one.
There was no blog post for 10/1.
Victoria:
Your blog about the movie "Crossroads" was a great description of a "wild woman" and referenced back to the reading in a very good way. Tying back to Thelma and Louise gave the movie you chose a lot of credibility and proved how the movie was a true example of a "wild woman." You described Lucy's life and her longing to have a different lifestyle in a very effective way and I enjoyed reading your description about the movie. You tied up the idea of a wild woman in the movie at the end of the post and this was a great conclusion.
There was no blog post for 10/1.
Megan:
You did an excellent job on the first blog post about the movie. You went into a lot of detail to describe the film then tie in how it relates to a "wild woman."I think this was a great movie to choose because you talked about more than 1 woman in the film, but rather all of the main characters and how they separately live lives of a wild woman. You did a great job explaining how Thelma and Louise also could relate to these characters, and I really enjoyed reading your post!
The blog post on D'Emilio's essay was very well thought out and I think you brought up some excellent points. Explaining the growth of capitalism and the different communities that came along with it is very important because it shows the importance of family life even after all the new technology has erupted. Technology has helped homosexual couples be able to have a family, which leads back to family life, making it a full circle. You pointed out that capitalism has created new societies online, which help people meet. This was good to point out because it allows for homosexual couples to have more chances to meet each other, therefore showing why capitalism is necessary.
I think you picked a great movie to describe a "wild woman." Helen had her own life which she loved and it quickly turned around and she had to care for others more than herself. You did a great job of describing Helen and a background of her life before explaining what happened to her and how she had to immediately become a responsible adult. I found it difficult to find a movie to describe, and I think you found a great one.
There was no blog post for 10/1.
Victoria:
Your blog about the movie "Crossroads" was a great description of a "wild woman" and referenced back to the reading in a very good way. Tying back to Thelma and Louise gave the movie you chose a lot of credibility and proved how the movie was a true example of a "wild woman." You described Lucy's life and her longing to have a different lifestyle in a very effective way and I enjoyed reading your description about the movie. You tied up the idea of a wild woman in the movie at the end of the post and this was a great conclusion.
There was no blog post for 10/1.
Megan:
You did an excellent job on the first blog post about the movie. You went into a lot of detail to describe the film then tie in how it relates to a "wild woman."I think this was a great movie to choose because you talked about more than 1 woman in the film, but rather all of the main characters and how they separately live lives of a wild woman. You did a great job explaining how Thelma and Louise also could relate to these characters, and I really enjoyed reading your post!
The blog post on D'Emilio's essay was very well thought out and I think you brought up some excellent points. Explaining the growth of capitalism and the different communities that came along with it is very important because it shows the importance of family life even after all the new technology has erupted. Technology has helped homosexual couples be able to have a family, which leads back to family life, making it a full circle. You pointed out that capitalism has created new societies online, which help people meet. This was good to point out because it allows for homosexual couples to have more chances to meet each other, therefore showing why capitalism is necessary.
Thursday, October 1, 2009
Economic Status Changes?
The American family today is significantly different than it was years ago. Gay and lesbian relationships are more accepted and some couples adopt a child to complete their family. There are still heterosexual relationships with couples that have thier own children to make a family, but both lifestyles are becoming more common among Americans. D'Emilio suggested that capitalism allows for more independence, therefore giving a gay or lesbian life a chance (D'Emilio 235). Since every person must survive on their own and make a living for themselves because of capitalism, surviving for some people may be living a gay lifestyle. We are allowed to live a life with free will, and becasue of this, the American family is turning into whatever two people may want it to be.
The past 100 years have encouraged each and every person to be independent and live a life that pleases them personally. This allowed for some people to declare themselves gay or lesbian, and due to this, the birthrate began to drop. It is physically impossible for a gay or lesbian couple to concieve a child, so the more couples there are, the less children there will be. As D'Emilio said, the decline of children born has affected every part of America and every social class (D'Emilio 229). When social classes and groups of people are impacted, the economic structure will drastically change. If there are not as many children, there will not be a need for new schools, which will impact the careers of teachers. A variety of outcomes will happen due to less children being born, and all of these otucomes will affect the economy.
Another economic change that occurs due to gay and lesbian relationships is the social aspect. Gay and lesbian bars are becoming more popular for couples to meet each other. There are also places like the YMCA, local libraries, and different clubs and associations (D'Emilio 230). While these environments are gaining popularity, heterosexual clubs, bars, and other meeting places are also growing and being built. Since there are two different environments now that must be built so people can meet each other, more money will be made, which will in turn help the economy.
There are a variety of ways that the "modern" American family is changing the economic status of this country. It may not seem that gays and lesbians cause such an effect on the economy, but when considered, it is apparent that many aspects of the economy are changed because of it.
The past 100 years have encouraged each and every person to be independent and live a life that pleases them personally. This allowed for some people to declare themselves gay or lesbian, and due to this, the birthrate began to drop. It is physically impossible for a gay or lesbian couple to concieve a child, so the more couples there are, the less children there will be. As D'Emilio said, the decline of children born has affected every part of America and every social class (D'Emilio 229). When social classes and groups of people are impacted, the economic structure will drastically change. If there are not as many children, there will not be a need for new schools, which will impact the careers of teachers. A variety of outcomes will happen due to less children being born, and all of these otucomes will affect the economy.
Another economic change that occurs due to gay and lesbian relationships is the social aspect. Gay and lesbian bars are becoming more popular for couples to meet each other. There are also places like the YMCA, local libraries, and different clubs and associations (D'Emilio 230). While these environments are gaining popularity, heterosexual clubs, bars, and other meeting places are also growing and being built. Since there are two different environments now that must be built so people can meet each other, more money will be made, which will in turn help the economy.
There are a variety of ways that the "modern" American family is changing the economic status of this country. It may not seem that gays and lesbians cause such an effect on the economy, but when considered, it is apparent that many aspects of the economy are changed because of it.
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